What is the meaning of life? Everyone would have their own subjective response to this question. When it really comes down to it, what is the one thing that is a constant (hopefully) in your life? It has to be love. To quote a well known film, "Love actually is, all around us." Whether it’s the love you have for your family, your siblings or the love you have for your partner, when all else fails, we can live off love and still be happy. Romantic love is the kind you can spot a mile off. If someone you know has just met someone, it’s blindingly obvious from the spring in their step to the "everything is amazing" air about them, that they've fallen in love. Imagine if you could be the one behind this new found happiness? Everyone loves to meddle, and everyone at some point knows someone single.
Here are 10 ways you can make someone very happy by helping them find love:
1. Flattery goes a long way
Read these two sentences below. Which sounds best?
“People tell me I’m the funniest person they know”
“My brother is honestly the funniest person I know.”
We always say it, but writing an online dating profile is up there with writing a CV. No one likes doing it, and yet it determines any kind of success. Isn’t it a hell of a lot easier to write about someone else than yourself? You know your loved one inside out, especially if it’s your single parent or sibling. By matchmaking on Date My, you can champion someone you love by writing their profile for them. The best part is you’re more likely to mention attributes they never would, which works out to be very flattering, or more importantly, honest.
Going into online dating alone can be daunting. Anyone that reads a profile written about themselves is bound to get a big confidence boost and feel ready to enter the world with a profile they can feel proud of.
2. 2. Stops Bad Habits
If you’ve read, How To Avoid Dating The Wrong Type Of People you’ll see that some people can slip into bad relationship habits. The only way to snap out of this is by choosing someone completely opposite to your usual type. This is where you, the Matchmaker can help. You may know the reason for their unsuccessful dates or relationships. From an outside perspective it’s a lot easier to see what that person needs. Just be careful you’re not pushing it too far and actually setting them up on a date they won’t enjoy.
3. Help them get out of a rut
You might know someone who has completely lost his or her confidence after coming out of a bad break up, divorce, or a string of really deflating dates. This can easily escalate into complete avoidance, where that person is now hiding from the dating world and refusing to do anything about it. What you can do is pick that person up and say, I am taking your love life into my own hands now. Usually, they won’t refuse. Finding love can feel like a burden if you’re struggling along trying to find it. Don’t be hesitant in approaching the idea. If you’re fearing the response remember that most of the time that person is secretly wanting your help and will be open to it. A little gentle persuasion if not!
4. It saves them time
One common reason for someone being single is that they don’t have time to date. Especially single parents, who often struggle to meet someone new in every day life. Online dating has made this easier for a lot of people, with the prospect of a date just a few clicks away, even in your PJ’s. However, it still can feel like a chore. A lot of singles create a profile, sign up and then never do anything about it. You can do all of the hard work for them, searching for matches and setting up dates. All they have to do is turn up!
5. Builds Self Esteem
Even if you don’t find them the one, all the dates you line up will be great practice. If someone hasn’t been on a date in a while the expectation of one can be quite nerve racking, and the longer they put it off the worse that fear gets. This isn’t the case for everyone, but by you giving your loved one a nudge in the right direction it’s bound to do wonders for their self esteem.
When you’re being introduced by someone, it feels less embarrassing doesn’t it? You don’t have to worry about making first contact. Once you’ve matched your loved one with someone, they know the feelings mutual. They can thrive of this introduction and feel confident either writing the first message, or receiving it!
7. Surprise Element
Similar to number 2, as you’re doing the choosing, you have the power to match a loved one with the kind of person you might have always seen them with. This might take them by surprise. It will be refreshing for them to get someone else’s opinion when they think they know best.
8. Mindset Shift
Reminding someone how great it is to be dating, rather than the negatives can help shift someone’s mindset completely. If they’re actively dating and putting themselves out there, they are then more likely to meet someone just by being more approachable. So, even if they don’t click with someone online, you may have created a lot more options for them, just by paving the way.
9. Positive Outlook
The self-esteem you’ve helped someone build won’t just have a positive effect on their love life. By helping someone feel more confident in this area it will also filter out into other aspects of their life, like their lifestyle and maybe even their job.
10. A relationship & more
If your matchmaking leads to a successful relationship you can wear your Matchmaker crown with pride. This is the ultimate goal for you ( and us) and if you’ve succeeded, chances are you’ve made someone very very happy. Good work!